If there’s something worse than losing the love of your life, I can’t think of what it could be. Just thinking that that might happen feels devastatingly sad. I can feel my body collapse. I’m remembering the loss of a relationship that I thought was the most important one of…

What can you do when you’re feeling stressed, unmotivated, or derailed by things out of your control? Does this picture fit for you? You’ve accomplished some important goals. Your life is pretty good but you’re uninspired, a little bored, a little restless. You’re waiting for the next thing — a…

Is it your relationship that makes you happy? When its not going so well, is it your relationship that makes you unhappy? For many people the answer is yes. Definitely yes! If you are like many of my clients, you may be frustrated because your partner is not willing to…

I woke up with a headache again this morning. Red wine. And not very much of it either. I feel angry and frustrated. I tell myself, I’m never drinking again. I feel silly that I can’t just have an evening drinking a moderate amount of alcohol. Well, truthfully, I can…

I have client who has trouble speaking. Sometimes, she says, she doesn’t feel like she’s allowed to talk about certain things. She did not chatter away, as a teenager, processing every conversation, event, thought and endless feelings like I remember doing. I asked around. …

Do you wish you could sleep like you used to? Do you know you aren’t getting enough sleep, but haven’t done anything about it? Sleep problems are some of the most frustrating symptoms of anxiety and depression. There are things you can do to help yourself sleep better. …

Are you frustrated with never quite resolving the problems you’ve been struggling with for a long time? Do you wish you could change some of your habits and beliefs? Having been a licensed counselor for over 20 years, I naturally believed that talking about problems was the way to make…

Are you feeling frustrated with your life? Do you wish you were different? If something is stopping you from enjoying your life and feeling like your best self, you are in the right place. I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years and have narrowed my focus to areas I…

When you notice anxiety, stop what you are doing and spend some time trying to calm the reaction you are having. First, let yourself feel it. Give it some attention. Trying to ignore those feelings will only cause them to intensify. 1. Put your hand on your heart and say…